I finally decided on which shade of white to use (Vanilla Milkshake, partly because of the name) and tackled painting the kitchen cabinets late in the evenings.
Even with a single coat of primer the space already looks brighter and bigger.
The only hardware that I changed was on the drawers because I really believe in working with what you already have and the existing hardware was classic and simple.
For a minimal amount of money (and many hours of work) the kitchen feels brighter and less dated. Of course there are several other things I’d like to add but for now it’s a huge improvement.